“Life is lived one experience at a time.”
~ Lizzie Bennett
What does the word “failure” mean to you? Sometimes it’s associated with something that didn’t turn out the way it was hoped, or exactly what was anticipated. Experiences seem to always have been exactly what we needed, when we look back with an open mind. Or, we might look at what happened and surmise we don’t deserve the result we wanted, or that yet again – we’re proved to be unworthy.
I feel that way when I work on my own business after my paid day-job. I have to own the results, because it’s me. I make the mistakes and I have to make the effort to see what I missed, or what the lesson was. Sure, I could just say ‘forget about it’ and resign myself to Netflix each night, but that doesn’t move me toward my soul’s purpose. I own that.
Sometimes we remember that wisdom saying about success – “if at first you don’t succeed, try again.” And it’s true! But there’s a measure of wisdom that isn’t spoken there – you can’t do the same thing over and over and expect a different result. We must look at what part of our effort didn’t work, reframe the process, and try again. Eventually, we’ll get it right.
There are people who seem to go from one success to another in their lives. And these people seem to be aware of and in the flow with – their own capabilities. I’m not sure, but maybe we don’t actually believe that what is available to them might also be available to us. Maybe we don’t realize our own successes along the way.
In planning to move forward, it helps to have a plan. Even if it’s as simple as completing the steps toward the greater achievement, it gives us something to focus on, and something to let us know that we did, indeed, achieve a success along the path.
Right now, I’m consolidating my business ideas under one umbrella. Slimming down my offerings and concentrating on what it is I do the very best: facilitating people to realize their best lives. Does that mean that the massage, reflexology, and energy healing I do in my own clinic are a mistake? No! It means that I succeeded in identifying some things that distract me from my central skill set of facilitating healing. I set a simple and correct standard and goal for what I can do right now, while I still have a full time day job.
The lesson: When we set goals that are too high or are too this moment, standards we can’t achieve at time, then we will always fail. And, by fail, I mean learn the lesson that we didn’t see at first.
All of us learned life skills as we grew up. Walking, talking, dressing, crossing the street safely. Without the encouragement of parents and others, we wouldn’t have been proud and happy and willing to go to the next developmental stage or life lesson. We were eager to learn and get approval. Now that we are grown, the location of our control and praise has changed from outside our control, to an internal one. Our self talk. Do you encourage yourself and get that warm fuzzy that urges you to keep doing better and better? Or do we bash ourselves and die a little with a deflating idea and an increasing sense of resignation? It’s a choice. No matter what anyone else says, we’re grown and it’s our choice now.
It’s also well to know about that old “imposter syndrome,” the thinking trick that convinces us that each little failure is proof that we don’t know what we’re doing. That we’re unworthy and nobody is going to buy our product, believe we can help, and it even tells us that we’re going to look like a fool and be “found out” to be a fake. Sound familiar?
We don’t have to be afraid to try new things, or change up what we are doing so that we can have our dream – a business, a home, retirement – because working toward a goal and a dream is worth it. It’s worth the mistakes. It’s worth the lessons learned. And, it’s worth defeating that negative thought monster called “imposter syndrome.
We can begin a pattern of success now, so that our subconscious minds can put together the pieces of learning into a coherent picture that lets us work more efficiently and also attracts what we need with the help of the Law of Attraction. Planting the seeds of success for the future begins now with willingness to change our belief patterns.
Here are some new belief statements that you can try. If they don’t work for you, change them up and make them your own.
~ The Universe supports me with ideas that form my success.
~ All my efforts are leading me toward success.
~ There is an abundance of everything for everyone, that includes me!
~ There are customers who desire my services.
~ My awareness of success draws customers to me.
~ My life is abundant, I have all the tools I need when I need them.
~ Every day in every way I draw Divine Prosperity into my life,
~ My dreams and blessings grow with my belief.
~ I have opportunity at every moment.
~ My efforts bring me a constantly increasing income.
Choose one of the positivity statements above, and write it on a 3X5 card, put it on your phone with a reminder, but have it with you. Repeat it for several days – several times a day. Bring the wisdom into your consciousness, feel the words and see the words happening. As these ideas are becoming part of your consciousness and your ability to spot synchronicities (opportunities) will increase.
You don’t even need to worry about the “how” to put plans into actions when ideas come to you. Your innate intelligence and connection with the Universe can guide you.
Remember, despite what you think or feel right now about “imposter syndrome,” worthiness or deservingness, you’re stirring the ethers and creating change. Change in your thoughts creates change in your life. Add other affirmations as you go along. Affirmative statements are the beginning of changing your thoughts.
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© Lizzie Bennett is an Advanced Holistic Nurse, (RN), Whole Health thought leader, and Ordained Minister of some years. She is a Nurse Health Coach facilitator, and owns Three Moons Medicine™ as her private counselling and coaching practice, a blog, educational forum, Facebook page, and outreach to support others on their journey.
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