After we’ve journaled and explored our relationship with money, we probably now have identified some fears and some concerns we have.
The final piece of exploring our money situation is developing the ability to look at our finances without judgment or a place of fear, but instead with love. Love. This means being able to tell ourselves the truth about our individual selves and money. Without fear or judgment. This ability to look at our relationship with money without fear and with love is an important step in becoming financially free.
When we make the decision to be loving and fearless, we are in a position to reclaim our power and view our finances differently:
- First, we can be honest about our current financial state. This is where you assess how much debt you have, how much money earn, and how much you are spending. It’s important to be nonjudgemental, confident, calm and objective.
(Sharing my own experience, I would look at the concept of “income,” simple as it sounds. I would get stuck because my mind would bring up questions like, “what about taxes?;” “what about automatic deductions?” and I would give up before I started. Why? Because it was easier to stay stuck out of fear, than it was to look squarely at what the flow of money was. Was I judging money? No! I was judging my own self and condemning my own decisions and running the scripts that supported fear. Sound familiar? It’s okay. We can move past this when we decide to.)
- Second, unburden yourself! Tell another person about your current finances. You can tell your story, maybe you would like to ask this person to just listen to you as you move through your process and develop confidence. By telling another person, you hear your own story, and you can see that your fears and hesitations really aren’t the end of the world. If you talk to a person skilled in reflective listening, you will be supported in your decisions and you’ll quickly develop your own strategy and have that gentle accountability, too.
- It’s important to know that you have your own innate worth, and that money flow does not determine your worth. Money is not value, it’s a tool.
List some things that you value about your Self. All the big things and the small things you can think of. Read this list before you go to sleep at night. Add to it as new awareness of self-worth develops, as you will surely find them. Self-worth is a new concept and a new skill.
Through all these steps, I hope you found a few skills that help you to see that money is not you, and that you have innate worth. You have a vision of what things might be like if money was not a concern, and we looked at what a career that aligns with your dreams looks like.
Now that some clear goals and trends are identified, I hope you can aim your creativity, affirmations, and decisions to create your dream job that aligns with what you truly want and value.
© Lizzie Bennett is an Advanced Holistic Nurse, Board Certified, RN, Whole Health thought leader, and Ordained Minister of some years. She is a Nurse Health Coach facilitator, and owns Three Moons Medicine™ as her private counselling and coaching practice, a blog, educational forum, Facebook page, and outreach to support others on their journey.
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